That he was gone and she was technically available was beside the point.Despite my mother’s allegiance to my father, she never quite mastered wifedom—for one reason: she was wholly unyielding.Editor's note: The following column is adapted from the new book "The Alpha Female’s Guide to Men & Marriage" Post Hill Press (February 14, 2017). She was, however, a remarkable and compassionate woman.And she was fiercely devoted to my father, so much so that five years after he died, she couldn’t bring herself to even kiss the man who fell in love with her at the independent living facility where she lived for a year and a half before she too passed away.In chess, the king is the most important piece but also one of the weakest. Plus, why am I responsible for my husband’s reactions? by not arguing with him, or by not directing his traffic, or by being more service-oriented—and marvel at the response. Once you realize that diet and exercise is the only way to stay fit, and that sugar and carbs create fat, a light bulb goes off in your head. Her latest book is "The Alpha Female’s Guide to Men & Marriage: HOW LOVE WORKS." Find her on [email protected] Venker.
He’s reacting to your moods, your gestures, your inflections and your tone. Your husband wants you to be happy, and when he sees it isn’t working he thinks he’s failed. Another way to think about the male-female dance is to consider the game of chess. Suzanne Venker is the author of five books on marriage, feminism and gender politics.
It is when men are not loved well that problems arise. Now I know what you’re thinking: that I’m putting everything on you. Your husband is 100% responsible for his own actions.
If he makes stupid choices, such as getting repeatedly drunk, it’s his job to own up to that behavior and stop it.
The man wanted to marry her, but it was out of the question.
In my mother’s mind, there was only one man for her.