Ask some or all of these questions of yourself and your partner: Is this actually casual for both of us?
Imagine a food pyramid, only for casual relationships. What happens next may not involve an Asian man lighting a table on fire before your eyes or flipping a shrimp tail into his breast pocket but will, if all goes well, prove equally entertaining, satisfying, and, well, hot.If you or your partner can't ignore your feelings, reconsider the arrangement. Don't hurt anyone or set yourself up to be hurt—unless, you know, masochism is your thing. You know the obvious ones: the one-night stand, the booty call, sex by appointment.More recent variations include "rec" (recreational) sex, which exists because, as one friend told me, "every great athlete needs practice." And then there's "cereal" sex, which is a one-night stand amid a dry spell that, like cereal, is satisfying in the moment but leaves you needing further sustenance shortly thereafter. When I hosted my ninth birthday party at a Japanese steakhouse, we were instructed to remove our shoes prior to sitting in our little elevated wooden booth.